1. Marriage requires more words than singleness.
Life is different when you are single. It can be 3am when you have a craving for McDonald's. Let's say you decide to just get up, throw some clothes on, and head to Mickey D's. It's truly a non-event. No explanations needed. No questions asked. Try pulling that off without words in marriage. Actually, please don't. It can lead to unnecessary hurt and confusion. That's just an example, but trust me on this one. Marriage requires many, many words in and out of bed. Moving on.
2. Providing and being provided for isn't as easy as it sounds.
It's quite the opposite. The Mr. describes it as an adjustment. He is exceptionally modest. If I were The Mr. I would probably describe it as cruel and unusual punishment ...well, you get the idea. I see admire the sense of responsibility that my husband has to make sure that our needs are met and that I am as comfortable and satisfied as possible. It further encourages me to take care of him, and make sure that he stays strong, satisfied, and happy. It's a challenge for both of us at times.
Life happens, jobs don't pan out, and maybe just maybe I use too much toilet paper. ;) Jokes aside, allowing myself to be provided for as a wife has been one of my most humbling experiences. It's not easy letting go of items that have been tokens of my hard work and effort, but sometimes it's necessary. It's an act of submission. It's falling under the protection of my husband. Confronting these issues as one takes a supernatural type of something. It takes Jesus Christ.
3. Even when you're frustrated with each other, you aren't sick of one another.
Because of our faith, we did not live together prior to getting married. Not only did we not live together, we lived on opposite sides of the state throughout all of the years that we dated. Marriage is the absolute opposite of that. We have been together every day and every night for the past 15 months, and though we know we will at some point have to spend a night or two away from each other, we absolutely adore it. Even if there was a disagreement that day, that night we lie in bed together. There is no sleeping on the couch. There is no one else we would rather be with than each other.
How long have you been married? And what surprises have you encountered? Talk to me.
